Loving me, myself, is enough for me right now.

Sometimes I want to scream I CHOOSE TO BE SINGLE.

Our societal views on single vs. relationships is fucked up.

Being single does not mean I have to date. Someone thinking I’m pretty does not mandate me to have to be in a relationship with someone. My single status does not mean I have to say yes to guys when they ask me out. Having a profile on a dating app does not mean that I have to say yes to any date, respond to any message, or even be active on the app. It means I have it there as an option for the very rare slow moments in my life that I might want to see if anyone interests me to engage in some conversation or maybe even give up my favored single crown. Slim chance, though.

I am so sick of defending my time spent to my career and my kid instead of paying attention to and responding to messages from guys.

Speaking of valued time, scheduling a showing or listing appointment with me simply to meet me because I don’t have time to date is not a smart move. It’s the fastest way to turn me off. It’s a complete disrespect of my time, and my freedom as to how I spend my time.

It takes two to make any relationship work. Simply because someone wants me bad enough does not mean that I owe them a chance. Honestly, why would you want to have to talk someone into dating you? They should simply want to be with you. If they’re not, they’re not the person for you. If you have to talk someone into dating you, are you really going to feel good and secure about being in that relationship?

Wanting me does not mean you get to have me. It is not that easy.

And when the hell did being single translate to not being able to get a guy? I love the comments of “how the hell are you single?” people will make to single folks. Well, sir, ma’am, we single folks choose to be single.

How about being single means I am actively choosing, in this moment in my life, being single is the best decision for me. That being single is what I want to be.

How about…

• I choose to dedicate my time to my career.
• I choose to dedicate my time to my daughter.
• I choose to dedicate my time to my commitments.
• I choose to dedicate my time to rediscovering my friendships.
• I choose to dedicate my time to ME.

And how about I refuse to enter into another relationship that is anything less than I deserve.

Every time a guy comes after me and solely focuses on my looks or body, I’m sorry but it further pushes me into enjoying being single. I don’t want to settle. I want to be appreciated.

Quite frankly, I really appreciate me single and finally learning to set boundaries.

I don’t want to be tied down to someone right now. I don’t want to deal with their expectations of me making time for them. I don’t want to defend myself when I choose my career over date night. I definitely don’t want to repeat myself when I can’t make time due to having 100% custody of my daughter and choosing to spend my free time with her. I’ve been struggling to make time for friends, I’m not trying to date.

I want my freedom.

I want to be single.

How about I’m good enough for me, just me, more than enough, and that makes me incredibly happy right now.